How To Add Emphasis In Meetings That Will Increase Your Influence
Expressing disbelief or frustration can sometimes get you into hot water. But how can you express frustration or emphasize your feelings in meetings?
Unleash the power of the pause
If you start huffing and puffing, raising your voice or showing other signs of frustration and distress, then you are not going to come across as very professional.
Learn to use the power of the pause when you find yourself in a frustrating situation. It may sound typical, but taking a breath, counting to ten and pausing will stop you from making an emotional outburst.
Pausing can also make your words hang in the air and make them sound even more impactful. Great speakers know how to use the power of a pause for effect.
Think back to your mother, remember how with just one stone, cold look she could send a shiver down your spine. No words needed.
Use vocal variations
Change your voice when expressing different feelings. For example, you can say "Really?!" with a cold tone or say, "Wow!" with a frustrated tone. This adds emphasis and energy to your emotions. Controlling your pitch and tone is a great way to express to people that you are annoyed or frustrated.
Try and remember that using a flat monotone is the fastest way to becoming emotionless. This will make it very difficult for listeners to interpret your real mood. If you are happy you will sound flat and bored, and if you’re angry, well, you will sound flat and bored.
Quick note, shouting and screaming is not generally recommended when trying to add emphasis that will increase your influence. It may add emphasis, but it will negatively impact on your influence.
Obviously, hand gestures play a massive role in non-verbal communication. You can use hand gestures to add emphasis to everything you are saying.
I think it is important to note that banging your fist on the table won’t win you any points with the team in a meeting.
Shaking your head on the other hand, or dropping your head to look down can clearly transmit that you are annoyed or disappointed.
Some other hand gestures can include a raised index finger that is moved from left to right. This expresses that you do not agree with something.
You can also try showing two open palms of your hands and a look of disbelief on your face. You can even mouth the word “what”, without actually vocalizing it.
Finally, remember that running your hands through your hair nervously will transmit to someone that you are very nervous and quite possibly frustrated.
Being aware of your body language is very important if you want to come across as professional. Sometimes, if we are not careful, our body language can betray our true feelings to someone, even when we are trying to keep our cool
Use some common expressions
Of course at the Art of Business English we want to arm you with useful language that you can use in your day-to-day business. So, if you want to add emphasis and show that you are a bit annoyed or frustrated (without losing your cool), then you can safely use some of the following expressions.
Knowing how to influence people effectively in a meeting is important, especially if you work in an office. You may know how to make a decision based on clear evidence, but getting others to agree with you when you go against their decision isn’t that easy. You need to add emphasis and personalise your feelings.
Please keep in mind, that controlling your emotions while at the same time expressing your frustration is an art that for many takes a considerable amount of practice.
Try using some of the tips and language in this episode to help you get on the path to becoming an influential meeting participant or leader.
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